Consider 8 Ways to Heal:

1. Psychotherapy can help identify past trauma. Let the unfortunate trauma that happened to you diminish in time with doing things to deal with your stress or past traumatic injury you experienced but you become determined not to let those wounds ruin your life today. If no good memories came out of it don’t dwell on it and turn into someone whose bitter or whines all the time. Show the world your dealing with it and got over it!! Your now a stronger person.

2. Grief requires dealing with your deceased parent; warts and all. You accept that you were traumatized; you may even forgive and if traumatized in a way in losing something or someone remember the good memories it gave you or in just a loss of a one you loved with all good memories remember that. The hole in your heart is a mental injury like all types it will heal in time.

3. Identify your triggers. Everyone who’s been traumatized has triggers and responses. Get to know yours. Utilize what calms your trigger down whether it be work out or hobbies or some type or work.

4. The Trigger-Response recreates the past. When you run, freeze or attack, you end up recreating and therefore, re-enforcing the past. You freeze and people think you are cold and stonewalling. If you run, nothing will last. And, if you rage in response to being triggered, you are doing what was done to you possibly. People will withdraw or be injured; not a good outcome.

5. Good therapy also helps you to rediscover your strengths. We are not just damaged creatures, but also living beings with power and talents. Many people discover strength they never knew they had in treatment. This, in turn, gives you more motivation to overcome the trauma of your youth. With competent psychotherapy you may be able to gain the strength to deal with being triggered, without harming others – or yourself. Happiness is that important.

6. Alternative treatments like EMDR, Somatic Experiencing and DBT may help as well. These treatments help with muting the triggers that are neurologically embedded in your brain. Remember that the fight, flight and freeze response has an evolutionary purpose. It protects the organism from dangerous situations. You may need specialized expertise to overcome this programming.

7. Often trauma is found alongside other psychiatric disorders like Anxiety or Depression. An intelligent use of psychiatric medications can reduce the trigger-response effect and give you an opportunity to create a future response that is not dictated by your past.

8. Spirituality can be invaluable. No one can tell you HOW to be spiritual, but for many, some form of faith can truly detoxify. (As long as you are not in a faith that makes you more anxious and burdened.) People may have hurt you, but a new life is yours for the taking. Look up at the stars. Smell the fresh air. Sense the opportunity in every moment. And, know that you are part of something larger than you. It settles the soul.

The Power of Letting Go: We often speak of the dead with the words;

“He (or She) Should Rest in Peace.” Yes, they should.

Yet, we often don’t think about the ways that people who are gone still impact us, even though they are not here. Your mom or dad may be gone, but their hurt remains. And, you have some choice to live a better life despite what happened to you.

Open your door the past does affect it now possibly with negative thinking or responses but the present – and the future higher odds does not.

But, contemporary psychology opens the door wider. You can be free from your past.